Why Your Relationship to Money is Killing Your Success

In this article, I want to take a look at how you value money determines your relationship to it.

Money is here and it’s here to stay for the foreseeable future. Whether you value it or not, if you are reading this article it plays a part in your life. You may be perceiving it as the source of your misery or the enabler of your dreams.

This article is essentially about you. It’s about you coming into the realization of how you value money. Look around you, look at the clothes you wear, the laptop you have, the items in your fridge, in your closest, the shower gel you buy, how you spend your disposable income, the types of entertainment you choose, the services and items that you buy for momentary pleasure and so on. Look at it all.

Money Killing Your Success

You don’t have to dig to deep to realize you value certain things that devalue other ideals and ambitions that you have.

Everything is connected. There is no better example of this than looking at how you spend money.

Perhaps you value getting into good physical shape, but you also value buying biscuits, because they make me you feel good, when you’re scoffing the whole pack with a cup of tea.

What can we take from this?

Well, we can take the fact that you value how biscuits make you feel more than you value the idea of being in great shape.

Why is this realization important?

Well, now you have a conscious choice to make. You see, buying the biscuits is not an isolated incident and it’s strongly connected to you devaluing how much you value getting into shape.

If you value your body health more than you valued the biscuits, you wouldn’t buy the biscuits.

What does this mean?

I’m not saying you cut biscuits out of your life. What I’m calling your attention to is the fact we value things that contradict what it is we tell ourselves we value.

By becoming aware of this we have a conscious choice to make. Perhaps that choice is not to eliminate biscuits from your life but to simply cut down and to reaffirm your value for getting in shape.

We can see many more examples of this in our life. For instance, how often do we tell ourselves that we really want to do something that is good for us?

A perceived personal investment if you will- for example, an online digital marketing course. We can’t do it now, because we haven’t got the money, right?!?

Meanwhile, while you lack the money to invest in yourself, you somehow magically have the money to buy food and drink and clothes. This in no way helps you improve your life, but just aids you in your bid of temporary satisfaction.

Now we’ve made the connection we know that we are in fact lying to ourselves when we say we haven’t got enough money. The truth is we value pleasure more than we value personal investment.

This is Not a Judgement Call

I am in no way trying to be tough on you or judge you in any way. What I want to do is show you the connection. In doing so, show you that you have a conscious choice to make.

The fact is when we start to consciously choose what we value, we give ourselves a great opportunity to make a decision that will benefit us as opposed to making a decision that just occurs out of habit.

Once we start getting into the habit of seeing how things are connected we give ourselves the ability to enhance our lives for the better. We stop being a victim of our habitual choices and start benefiting from them instead.

Conscious Vs Subconscious Choices

Your relationship to money may in fact be extremely subconscious. You probably think it’s just a biscuit. Perhaps you don’t even consider the values surrounding something so trivial. You don’t realize you’re making a choice to not just value something but in doing so, devaluing something else.

If you don’t make your relationship to money a conscious one you will lack the ability to make that money work for you.

Can you imagine if the majority of the time you spent your money, it was based on you doing something that brought value to your life?

Imagine every time you spent your money it was in alignment with your ambitions.

Then your use of money will become less about spending and more about investment. This means you will be more likely to see a return on your investment as opposed to just spending it and never seeing it again in any shape or form, other than the momentary pleasure you achieved.

Actions Steps

I’d encourage you to for the next 21 days to preempt all your buying decisions with the question:

Am I spending this money or am I investing this money?

There is no objective here, use your money however your like.

I am however very confident that you will begin to make very different buying decisions.

I know you will surprise yourself in this process. Furthermore, you’ll start making spending decisions that empower you and rejuvenate your excitement for life.

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